i could too kiss you mate … really! this is what i wanted .. btw i had to delet the line below the line you added
from this
var into = $(this);
into.addClass(‘missing-required’);
into.append(‘<span class=”wpcf7-not-valid-tip”>’ + message + ‘</span>’);
into this
var into = $(this);
into.addClass(‘missing-required’);
so i get only the red markup on the cells and not the msg!