I got it to work beautifully, I found a plugin that negates ET’s call for fancybox, so I could use Easy Fancybox with no problem, like I stated. I ended up just creating inline divs and embedding the videos there. I lost the responsiveness, but the video works fine.
Just an update, I managed to get it working, but now I’m having a problem with youtube. I paste the code, add in “et_video_lightbox” so I get the pop up, but it gives me an iframe of my website.
