You can turn off pings in your options (Go to your admin panel, under Options -> Discussion, uncheck the box next to “Attempt to notify any Weblogs linked to from the article (slows down posting.)”)
Also, what I have tried to make Trackbacks go out before Pingbacks is change the order in which they are processed in execute-pings.php:
<?php
require_once('../wp-config.php');
// Do Enclosures
while ($enclosure = $wpdb->get_row("SELECT * FROM {$wpdb->posts}, {$wpdb->postmeta} WHERE {$wpdb->posts}.ID = {$wpdb->postmeta}.post_id AND {$wpdb->postmeta}.meta_key = '_encloseme' LIMIT 1")) {
$wpdb->query("DELETE FROM {$wpdb->postmeta} WHERE post_id = {$enclosure->ID} AND meta_key = '_encloseme';");
do_enclose($enclosure->post_content, $enclosure->ID);
}
// Do Trackbacks
$trackbacks = $wpdb->get_results("SELECT ID FROM $wpdb->posts WHERE CHAR_LENGTH(TRIM(to_ping)) > 7 AND post_status != 'draft'");
if ( is_array($trackbacks) ) {
foreach ( $trackbacks as $trackback ) {
do_trackbacks($trackback->ID);
}
}
// Do pingbacks
while ($ping = $wpdb->get_row("SELECT * FROM {$wpdb->posts}, {$wpdb->postmeta} WHERE {$wpdb->posts}.ID = {$wpdb->postmeta}.post_id AND {$wpdb->postmeta}.meta_key = '_pingme' LIMIT 1")) {
$wpdb->query("DELETE FROM {$wpdb->postmeta} WHERE post_id = {$ping->ID} AND meta_key = '_pingme';");
pingback($ping->post_content, $ping->ID);
}
?>
