Theme problems

I am having problems with a theme. It seems that everything that is in the sidebar is not a widget. It must be hardcoded, like the blogroll and meta, I had to remove that from the sidebar code. If I do add a widget it over-rides everything in the sidebar. I have archives and categories in sidebar 1, if I but a blogroll there it totally covers the 2 I already have there.

As of right now I have 0 widgets in each sidebar according to my dashboard but in sidebar 1 I have an archives and categories which I can see on the sidebar page, search is in sidebar 2 which I can see on the sidebar page. I have a blog roll in 2 which I cant find anywhere and I can’t seem to get any widgets in either sidebar without messing up the formatting of the sidebars.

Any ideas? The site is if anyone want’s to take a look
or does anyone know where I can get another nice theme similar to this one that may be a little more user friendly.

I have a great theme that I have on another site that I had no problems with but it isn’t right for this site! I have been trying to get things right on this theme way to long.

Scott