For each widget there is a unique id which you could use to change the background for each widget separately. Please provide a link to the exact page and what you want to change in it. I will look in to it and try to help you with some.
Yup.. that is what I was asking… do i do that while i am in the appearance > widget section? I click on one and all it does is try to highlight them all
@durhamj11 You can left click on the widget within the sidebar, hold on to the click and drag it up and down as you like over other widgets to adjust the order.