Problem with external server… help!!!

Hi,
I’m desperate… I have my web site hosted with Dreamhost and server mail (mail.mydomain.com) in other hoster (with Dedicated Server).

If I try to use the external mail server (mail.mydomain.com) mailing delivery become more more slowly…. about 1 minute to send 1 mail! ??
In addition to this if I try to send “email test” from MailPoet, web page show me error message: “Request error not Json”.

Email test arrive to destination but system load for 1 minute…
Also if I try to send a newsletter the waiting times are very long.

I tried to test external mail server from my pc and working good; I tried also to contact Dreamhost support but they told me that server it is ok.

What could be the problem? :'(

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