I wound up installing Pari Passu (for iPhone/iPad/iPod streaming) — you have to tell it to use the playlist file (m3u8). Unfortunately, Pari Passu won’t do flash streaming if you tell it to also use the RTMP mp4 address from wowza (as in, if you put them both in, it tries to stream mp4 from wowza inside the flash player, which obviously doesn’t work.) In order to get the flash streaming working (for desktops and non-iDevices) I also installed JWPlayer; then you’ve got to add the media URL (rtmp://your.server.tld:1935/stream-address) as an uploaded media and “Insert JWPlayer into Post”; this will add the short-tag [jwplayer mediaid=xxx] (where xxx is a number) into your post. As far as I know, inserting it into a post is the only way to get that mediaid number and without it, the shorttag won’t work.
I haven’t figured out a way to get both pari passu and jwplayer on the same page elegantly (ie, you can put them both in the same post/page using the short-tag in the post ([pari passu] and [jwplayer mediaid=XXX]), but only one of them will work, depending on which device you’re viewing from; the other one will break or just not display.) I know you can tweak this on the server side by detecting which browser is viewing the page and redirecting as appropriate but I’ve been too lazy to actually implement this so I wound up making two posts with the note “this is our streaming flash page, if you want our stream optimized for iPhones and other mobile devices, please go to our other page at URL https://whatever.url.etc…