I called my host and they said that it should work just fine and i dont need to do anything extra to get flash to function.
if you revist the same URL you will see an example how how it looks when i try to add the flash
here is the code that i am adding to the header.php:
<!-- header START -->
<?php
add_action('wp_head', 'your_function');
?>
<?php wp_enqueue_script('jquery'); ?>
<script src="../../../../Scripts/AC_RunActiveContent.js" type="text/javascript"></script>
<div id="header">
<script type="text/javascript">
AC_FL_RunContent( 'codebase','https://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=9,0,28,0','width','1000','height','306','src','../img/flash','quality','high','pluginspage','https://www.adobe.com/shockwave/download/download.cgi?P1_Prod_Version=ShockwaveFlash','movie','../img/flash' ); //end AC code
</script><noscript><object classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="https://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=9,0,28,0" width="1000" height="306">
<param name="movie" value="../img/flash.swf" />
<param name="quality" value="high" />
<embed src="../img/flash.swf" quality="high" pluginspage="https://www.adobe.com/shockwave/download/download.cgi?P1_Prod_Version=ShockwaveFlash" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="1000" height="306"></embed>
</object></noscript>
<div id="caption">
</div><!-- navigation START -->
<div id="navigation">
<ul id="menus">
<li class="<?php echo($home_menu); ?>"><a class="home" title="<?php _e('Home', 'inove'); ?>" href="<?php echo get_settings('home'); ?>/"><?php _e('Home', 'inove'); ?></a></li>
<?php
if($options['menu_type'] == 'categories') {
wp_list_categories('depth=2&title_li=0&orderby=name&show_count=0');
} else {
wp_list_pages('depth=2&title_li=0&sort_column=menu_order');
}
?>
<li><a class="lastmenu" href="javascript:void(0);"></a></li>
</ul>
<!-- searchbox START -->
<!-- <div id="searchbox">
<?php if($options['google_cse'] && $options['google_cse_cx']) : ?>
<form action="https://www.google.com/cse" method="get">
<div class="content">
<input type="text" class="textfield" name="q" size="24" />
<input type="hidden" name="cx" value="<?php echo $options['google_cse_cx']; ?>" />
<input type="hidden" name="ie" value="UTF-8" />
<span class="switcher" ><?php _e('Switcher', 'inove'); ?></span>
</div>
</form>
<?php else : ?>
<form action="<?php bloginfo('home'); ?>" method="get">
<div class="content">
<input type="text" class="textfield" name="s" size="24" value="<?php echo wp_specialchars($s, 1); ?>" />
<span class="switcher" ><?php _e('Switcher', 'inove'); ?></span>
</div>
</form>
<?php endif; ?>
</div>-->
<!-- searchbox END -->
<div class="fixed"></div>
</div>
<!-- navigation END -->
<div class="fixed"></div></div>
<!-- header END -->