Expound nav bar colour

I’ve spend hours trying chose the colour for the navigation bar and I’m getting tired as to why a basic control is made so difficult and unhelpful, when on .com it was easy. Why has this been taken away? and is there a plugin to control more styling on menu colour.

I wanted the main colour of the nav bar mid grey and after hours I’ve managed to add some styling to the style sheet which has only changed part of it. (I’m not live yet I’m in a grid host stage before the live one goes out.) A friend helped me code to change the hover colour to orange. But I cannot the right part of the nag list to change the black default to grey like the rest of the menu. My current live blog is still .com so it shows the whole menu as grey which is easy to customise. Also my host holds the files and stylesheets so I can’t access the style sheet so easily. and I can’t see nag bar colours in the RTF file in editor…..do others have their .org files with the host? Can someone give me some code please to change the main horizontal menu bar to a grey #9E9999. My hover will the colour below. I can’t find a way of selecting the list background I suppose.

#menu-menu2 li:hover {
background-color: #C24100;
}

}
.navigation-main {
background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% rgb(#9E9999);
background-color: rgb (#9E9999);
background-image: none;
background-repeat: repeat;
background-attachment: scroll;
background-position: 0% 0%;
background-clip: border-box;
background-origin: padding-box;
background-size: auto auto;
background-color: #9E9999;
}