CSS header Help!

Have a look at the code in the Manji theme:

https://www.brokenkode.com

Download the theme – cut the header code out that you need – insert it into your header.php file – and then style with css

i get this result with the links all strange

https://powderscene.com/archives/archivesbad.php

how does the theme have the links in that little grey bar?

You are going to have to do some reading to understand some basics with CSS. I’d suggest starting at https://www.w3schools.com/css/default.asp and check out their free CSS tutorials.