Blog Roll Links from WP Blog Cause Google to Penalize Me

Recently, I received a message that my top url’s dropped in traffic by 78%. I had no idea why. The only thing I did was change the variable in replytocom to omit them from indexing.

Finally, on google webmaster, I was told that I had too many outbound links from the same people. I am listed on their WP blogrolls. I know there are plug-ins for this but is there a way it can be installed in Wp so people can just click a button?

I think is ridiculous that I am getting penalized for this.

Also, although this might not be the right place to post, if someone links from wordpress.com (the free wordpress hosting site) you get back links from the post, tags, categories, etc. Again, angers google. Can that be changed too?